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T hey say cancer changes you. What they don't tell you is how it changes everything else – especially your relationships. Now that my hair has grown back and I'm "out in the world" again, people see me and think everything's okay. They see the surface – the physical recovery – but they don't see the years that cancer stole from me. They don't understand that while they were living their lives, I was frozen in time, fighting for mine. C ancer ghosting That's what happened. When I was in the thick of things – when I needed support the most – certain friends just... disappeared. The silence during those vulnerable moments spoke volumes. Now, these same people act like nothing happened, like there isn't an elephant in the room the size of my chemotherapy port. I ran into an old friend recently. The encounter was awkward, heavy with unspoken words. They smiled and chatted as if the past few years hadn't happened, as if they hadn't been absent du...

Survivorship isn't just about beating cancer. It's about navigating this new reality where some relationships don't fit anymore. It's about accepting that while cancer took years of my life, it also gave me clarity about who and what truly matters. To my fellow survivors: it's okay to feel this disconnect. It's okay to outgrow relationships that couldn't weather your storm. You don't owe anyone an explanation for protecting your peace. And to those who disappeared: I've learned that not everyone is equipped to handle the weight of cancer. That's okay too. But understand that your absence left a mark deeper than any surgical scar, and my silence now isn't forgiveness – it's forward motion. Because the truth is, I do breathe different now. Each breath is more intentional, more precious, and I choose carefully who I share this new air with.

2024 marked my first year in remission—my first year of survivorship. Real talk though: being diagnosed with triple-negative breast cancer as a young Black woman hit different. The stats don't lie—Black women are 41% more likely to die from breast cancer than white women, and we're getting diagnosed younger and at later stages. For real, Black women under 35 are getting TNBC at twice the rate of white women, and that shit is wild. I was talking to someone recently about how the word "SurvivHer" feels heavy on my tongue. Still got my port, still getting infusions, haven't even touched reconstruction yet. I know, I know—"You're a SurvivHer from diagnosis," that's what everyone says. But it just don't sit right with me yet, so "Shriver" it is until I'm ready. People always asking me, "How do you deal with triple-negative and knowing recurrence could come quick?" I keep it 100—I just do. It is what it is. No fancy speeches...

 today. I spoke too the committee whewwwwww I was so nervous. I  have been volunteering with the American cancer society since I was first diagnosed I met this amazing Dr. at an event in my hometown we kept in contact via instagram , asked if she could connect me with someone of course I said yes , I honestly assume it was a newly diagnosed person. It was actually acs asking if I ever receive bioMarker testing I told them I'm pretty sure I did , so I contacted my nurse navigator asked her to confirmed an she called me right away . She confirmed an sent over exactly what type of testing I had, I actually told her what it was for so she broke it down in jargon I can understand lol which helped me out so much. That was march of 2023 a week out of surgery . I didn't know what I was doing making all these videos professing my urging for biomarker testing, I just didn't think my story would be the story that politicians would agree pass ME???? October 2024 I was invited to share ...

 Here's what happened this yea!!!!  Lately I have been trying to reconstruct the website, to my vision it's been a wild ride with trying to build this ,authentically by myself. Its important to me that women receive the same if not better resources that I have been granted. I wanted to share my journey while actively going through it although its been hard af , its exactly what I needed I am so grateful for the community I have created for myself my new friends , new family , new sisters I mean honestly who the fuck would have thought Cancer would do this.  In 2024 I thought I would have went under reconstruction but NO I still have not ! most of ''24'' I was upset about that seeing my other breasties , get their surgeries made me feel so stuck. I was so happy for them , still am but I often feel like when am I next ? Well I now know ! No official date but thats my fault ,  I just recently was introduced to a new surgeon tho I think may be my potential new dr. I...