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Cancer Ghosting

Survivorship isn't just about beating cancer. It's about navigating this new reality where some relationships don't fit anymore. It's about accepting that while cancer took years of my life, it also gave me clarity about who and what truly matters.






To my fellow survivors: it's okay to feel this disconnect. It's okay to outgrow relationships that couldn't weather your storm. You don't owe anyone an explanation for protecting your peace.




And to those who disappeared: I've learned that not everyone is equipped to handle the weight of cancer. That's okay too. But understand that your absence left a mark deeper than any surgical scar, and my silence now isn't forgiveness – it's forward motion.


Because the truth is, I do breathe different now. Each breath is more intentional, more precious, and I choose carefully who I share this new air with.

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